TOASTMASTER PROJECT 7 - SPEECH
As discussed in the previous blog
this speech is about my own feeling of being left out which was a product of my
shyness
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Dear Mr.Toastmaster, Fellow
Members and Guests – Very Good Evening.
Can anyone
guess which disease has the most probability of being the greatest epidemic of
this century?
Malaria?... Swine Flu…?Aids…?Cancer…?
No
According to
recent research in US by the National Office of Statistics, one in five people
will go a whole week without speaking to anyone, with a staggering one in ten
people spending up to a month without any human connection.
The World
Health Organisation has rated “LONELINESS” as a higher risk to
health than smoking and as great a risk as obesity.
When I was
living in Kolkata, I had a person residing on my apartment block. I met him
almost every day, but never spoken to him more than a “Hi” or a dry smile. I
knew him probably more than 4 years. One night he was taken to hospital - never
returned… I since learned that he has terminal brain cancer and is living out
his final days.
Its not only in India, In Perth I
am travelling in the same Bus for the last three years, see familiar faces
everyday, but have never spoken more than hello.
We hardly take time even to know
our neighbors, we are engrossed into our iPods, iPads and gizmos these day.
Two major
impacts of these loneliness are suicide and divorce.
According to
the report from WHO, 25 commit suicide every hour, 80% of them are linked with loneliness.
It is said
“Marriages are made in Heaven”, I don’t know to what extent that is true, but
I’ve no doubt that divorces are made in earth.
On divorce,
recent statistics shows that close to 4000 divorce cases are filed in Australia
in 2014 it’s a spike of 11% from the year before.
Loneliness is increasing due to
nuclear families, youngsters working away from home living on their own, both
husband and wife working with no time for togetherness . Especially elders in
the society are affected the most. More than half of those over the age of 75
live alone and about one in ten suffers ‘intense’ loneliness that leads to
Alzheimer.
It is a
well-known fact, psychologically established, that if a person is left alone in
isolation for seven days he keeps talking inside, keeps himself engaged in the
mind, but then it becomes too much after seven days he starts talking… things
start coming out of his mind through his mouth and he starts whispering. After
fourteen days you can hear him clearly, what he is saying. After twenty-one
days he does not bother about anybody, he has gone insane; now he is talking to
walls, to pillars. He is trying to find some relationship. If he cannot find it
in reality, he will create a hallucination.
In this age
of social networking, you’d wonder how anyone could ever feel lonely. I have a
friend who has close to 800 Facebook friends, but very few people he can
honestly call real friends, and even fewer with whom he could connect on a
deeper level.
With
facebook, twitter and other social networking tools, we have more and more ways
to connect with others through the advances in technology, but the level of
connection that is happening is becoming increasingly superficial. All of the
technology in the world can’t change the fact that we are growing more and more
socially isolated in our society.
“While it’s
nice to be in touch with your cousin on the other side of the world over
Facebook, that can’t replace a more intimate face-to-face relationship…, you
need to balance this with relationships within the community you are actually
living in,”
Once, I attended
a function to keep work of my family. It was my Dad’s friend, and I being abroad for hew years
had lost the touch with max of them. I knew none other than the Uncle. The function
probably had couple of hundred person attending. In-spite of all that I felt
terribly alone there as I was not knowing anyone in the function.
It isn’t
merely the physical presence of others that will solve the problem. It is the
lack of emotional connection with other people that creates the feeling of
isolation and loneliness. It isn’t as simple as just getting out there and
meeting new people. It’s no point in having more acquaintances…but a real
deep connection and emotional bonding is important. It requires time, effort,
and at least a moderate level of risk. One has to put him or herself out
there in order to gain closeness with another human being.
Some simple
tips to overcome loneliness could be;
- Try to say a few words with the hello when ever you meet somebody.
- Talk to children. They probably ae the most easiest and refreshing to talk to. You don’t have to think of anything else while talking to them
- Tey to be open with your family and friends. Couple of close friends will do.
- Get involved in some voluntary activities.
- And last but not the least join a Toastmaster club. One good club is City of Perth Toastmaster.
“Loneliness
and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.” Mother Teresa
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