CONQUERING STAGE FRIGHT
Public
speaking is said to be the biggest fear reported by many adults, topping
flying, financial ruin, sickness, and even death.
Your breath
speeds up, your pulse races. Your throat tightens as your palms sweat. You feel
sick to your stomach, and when you speak, your hands and knees shake along with
your voice.
These are
common symptoms of stage fright, also known as performance anxiety.
Millions of people experience the involuntary response when they’re faced with
delivering a presentation or performing in front of others. This
assumption of being judged arises from the spotlight effect -- the belief that people are
paying more attention (especially negative attention) to you than they truly
are. It’s an evolutionary holdover of the “fight or flight” response. In this
case, your body perceives actual danger from becoming the focus of others'
attention.
Stage fright
is normal, but that certainly doesn’t mean that it’s not harmful. Performance
anxiety can affect your career and personal life. It can diminish your self-confidence
and hold you back from performing and your full potential. If you are prone to
stage fright, take control over it before it controls it. There are numerous
ways of controlling the stage fright, here are few:
Play with your
mind
Our mind is a foolish,
it believes, what you want it to believe. There are two proven ways to play
with your mind
Pretend: Pretend that your anxiety is actually
excitement. This is more effective than telling yourself to calm down. Telling
yourself to settle down when you’re pumped full of adrenaline is an act of
repression -- it gives those feelings nowhere to go. In contrast, recasting
your nervousness as excitement creates a framework to manage your emotions.
Divert: Divert your mind to something
hilarious. This idea came to me watching my wife calm down my son’s nerve. My
son is a 6 year old who is trying his hand on singing. Before his first stage
performance in from of a ~100 audience, he was nervous, fearing he will surely
forget the lines and will mesh up. My wife just went up and asked him did he
remembered the hilarious Bollywood song. He started smiling. And for the three
minutes before the performance they were just talking about that song, which
didn’t had any relation to the classical music he was about to deliver. He went
to the stage smiling and performed flawless. That day I understood the idea of
mind diversion. Divert your mind to some needless hilarious thing.
Worry about the
first five minutes -- and that's it.
The first few
minutes of a presentation are the most stressful. After that, you’re more
likely to settle into your role at the front of the room. Remember to have a
great opening. If you start your speech with confidence and certainty, the
nerves will settle down. Moreover your audience with warm with you which will
make you at ease. Here are some ideas for beginning a speech.
Focus and cut the
noise out
Focusing on
the material is one of your most important tools as a speaker who knows how to
reach and engage audiences. But as human tendency we have a habit of wandering
into off-the-grid thoughts, which affects our speaking ability and our
confidence takes a hit. Learn not to engage these thoughts or resist them;
instead, notice them and let them float away. Come back to your message and its
reception.
VISUALIZE success
You get what
you visualise success. Visualise the successful outcome and cut out any
negative thoughts. As you go up the stage visualise yourself coming down with
the audience appreciating, this will only improve your confidence and calm down
your nerves.
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